Loss is hard, and we’re here to help with the Claytor Rollins iCare Library. Designed to nourish your emotional, physical and spiritual needs after loss, visit as often as you need for articles, videos, and more from real people who understand.
Join us! The free iCare virtual support group is held the second Tuesday of every month at 4 pm eastern. Held via Zoom, it’s free and everyone is welcome to join with a simple click of the button.
• Learn coping tools
• Surround yourself with others who speak your loss language
• Reduce distress
• Safe place to express feelings
• Gain helpful information
• Explore hope
2nd Tuesday of the month
4 pm eastern
Designed to be read at 1, 3, 6 and 11 months during the first year of grief, the iCare series is helpful any time and can be re-read when needed.
Click on the cover of the book you would like to read, or click the audio button to listen.
Return to top
Helpful articles and resources authored by grief educators including national expert Dr. Bob Baugher, Lynda Cheldelin Fell, Linda Findlay, Herb Knoll, and Dave Roberts, L.M.S.W.
Click on any link or graphic below to open and read each article or handout.
- Grief emotions
- General loss
- Spousal loss
- Child loss
- Sibling loss
- Grieving men
- Parent loss
- Coping with holidays
- Sleep & dreams
- Therapeutic modalities
- Public reactions
- For supporters
- Common feelings
- Controlling stress
- Panic attacks
- Regret and guilt
- Hidden anger
- How to safely process anger
- Dip into denial
- Guilt—it’s what our brain does
- To cry or not to cry
- Anger quotes
- Why can’t I cry?
- Why some of us cry and some of us can’t
- Coping with isolation
- Insomnia after loss
- Tips for Work
- Coping with the holidays
- Playbook of hope
- Dealing with triggers
- Ending it – sometimes you want to, but don’t
- 6 tricks your brain plays during grief
- Does grief ever really go away? Part 1
- Does grief ever really go away? Part 2
- Grief makes a promise
- Wallowing through muck
- Getting hope back
- How hope changes
- Aren’t you over it?
- The cruel trick of grief
- Do the principles of The Secret apply to grief?
- How memories promote transformation
- Lessons in gratitude
- When I became a photograph
- As we close
- Give joy
- God’s script
- Grief & medication
- Grief work & boundaries
- Life Quality Inventory Checklist
- Photo album of my mind
- Please listen
- Reconciliation of grief
- See me through my tears
- Shoulds or should nots
- Spiritual journaling
- The family meeting
- The holidays
- What I need
- What now?
- You and I
- Proxy grief
- Stuffing stuffed animals eases grief
- When Tom left, I cried
- Let’s say goodbye to goodbye
- Keeping memories fresh
- Another day believing I will feel this way forever
- Grief is more than just boo-hooing
- Empathy and brain pain relief
- Grief’s strange thoughts
- How our brain tries to manage the pain of grief
- Pain, how much can you take?
- A pill for your grief
- Trying to make sense of a tragedy
- What does it meal to deal with it?
- What does it mean to fear death & dying?
- Your secret grief
- Everything happens for a reason, doesn’t it?
- Words and phrases we shared with our loved ones
- In the midst of a pandemic
- Self care plan for the bereaved
- Sensorial therapy
- Laugh therapy
- Forest therapy
- Hug therapy
- Dance/movement therapy
- Self care plan for widows
- How women change since the death of their husbands
- Helpful comments from adult children to their widowed mothers
- The young widow
- From Despair to Hope
- Do bereaved parents have higher death rates?
- I don’t care how long it’s been, can we talk about my child?
- Should I keep my changing grief a secret?
- 7 important lessons I learned from bereaved parents
- Bereaved parents coping with hatred
- The unexplained death of a child
- For my compassionate friends
- Marriage after death of a child
- The Wailing Tent
- He talked about his son and I didn’t see a tear
- Men in pain
- Do men really cry less than women?
- 15 things not to say to a bereaved man
- Never dismiss news of someone’s passing
- Grief recovery programs
- Finding new relevance
- Dangers of compound isolation
- Angels walk among us
Coping with the holidays
Sleep & dreams
A collection of videos featuring a variety of notable experts, interviews and presentations about love, loss and finding our way forward. Watch any video in your spare time, or listen in the car to hear how others have managed life after loss.
Click HERE to go to our YouTube channel featuring hope, healing and life after loss.
Return to top
Martin Luther King’s daughter, Dr. Bernice King, opens up to Lynda Cheldelin Fell at the National Grief & Hope Convention 2015.
Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley, international psychology experts on grief and loss, share how to find hope again.
GRIEF & FAITH
Pastor Todd Burpo of Heaven is for Real shares his story in a keynote at the National Grief & Hope Convention 2015.
World resiliency expert, author and CNN commentator Dr. Ken Druck leads In the Round at the National Grief & Hope Convention 2015.
Soaring Spirits International and Camp Widow founder Michele Neff Hernandez shares her story of finding hope after losing her husband in 2005.
Dianne West, national volunteer coordinator of Soaring Spirits International, shares her story of being scammed by a romantic interest—and how widows can protect themselves from cons.
Benjamin Scott Allen lost his entire family due to a blood transfusion tainted with HIV. He shares his story in a keynote speech at the National Grief & Hope Convention 2015.
Chelsea Hanson offers a rich treasure of ideas for how to remember loved ones.
Melanie Kors shares her journey in the aftermath of losing her youngest son to a freak accident in his bedroom. Hosted by Lynda Cheldelin Fell.
Nicole Brown Simpson’s sister shares her story of a downward spiral and subsequent healing in the aftermath of her sister’s murder.
Shannie Jenkins talks about her 31-year-old son’s 10-year journey through addiction that ended his life when he died from a heroin overdose in 2017.
GRIEF & FAITH
Sonja Burpo of Heaven is For Real shares her story of losing a pregnancy at the National Grief & Hope Convention 2015.
When Shelby Forsythia was in college, life was a living hell. Her father underwent 2 brain surgeries, her mother suddenly died, and Shelby’s mind battled her body as she fought binge eating disorder along with what felt like a total loss of home, security and stability.
When Alan Pedersen’s 18-year-old daughter died in a car accident nearly 17 years ago, Alan wasn’t sure he could survive. Today he spreads love from coast to coast in his Angels Across the USA van.
An inside look at traumatic sibling loss with guest expert Dr. Heidi Horsley, professor of Traumatic Loss During Childhood at Columbia University.
Zenspirations founder Joanne Fink found her voice after losing her husband. Watch her inspiring story.
A discussion about losing a child to a neurodegenerative disorder and the 5 stages of grief with Dianne Gray from the Elisabeth Kubler-Ross Foundation.
Sybrina Fulton has a heartfelt conversation with Lynda Cheldelin Fell about her son, Trayvon Martin’s death.
Colors are all around us, and they aren’t meaningless. They play a role in how we feel, and can influence our emotions and how we react. Studies show that coloring is therapeutic for all ages. Further, the repetitive hand movements induce a meditative state and help calm the mind during stress, giving our brain a respite from the emotional pain.
Print any illustration below and use gel pens, crayons, colored pencils, or felt tipped pens to color each picture using whatever colors match your emotions in that moment. Print and repeat anytime you need express your emotions.
Return to top
The most important thing you can do for your family.
Completing a Planning Guide can help support your loved ones at a time when they need it most. Knowing and following your wishes can alleviate the decision-making stress, and allow your survivors to focus on their emotional needs and on other family matters that may arise during difficult times.
Use the booklet below or click the Claytor Rollins Preplanning button for more information.
Click HERE to download, fill and print.
Have the Talk of a Lifetime, a program created by The Funeral and Memorial Information Council, was designed to help families have meaningful conversations about the things that matter most in their lives. These discussions can give important insights to the people they left behind — insights that can be used to honor and remember the lives of their loved ones.