Resource Library

WELCOME TO THE ICARE GRIEF RESOURCE LIBRARY

A comprehensive collection of nearly 150 topics, articles and evidence-based grief support resources available to you 24/7. Browse and read through helpful booklets, articles, and topics, print coloring pages, watch videos and more, courtesy of your funeral home.

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The iCare Series offers easy reading and helpful support through the first year. The books are designed to be read at 1, 3, 6 and 11 months during the first year of grief, yet are helpful any time and can be re-read when needed. Begin by clicking any book you would like to read.


Designed to nourish your emotional, physical and spiritual needs after loss, the grief support resources below span over 30 years of curated content including evidence-based techniques and modalities by grief educators Dr. Bob Baugher, Dave Roberts, L.M.S.W., Linda Findlay, and Lynda Cheldelin Fell. Click on any link below to print and read.

Resilience Rx™

  • Coping with COVID
  • Self care plan for the bereaved
  • Self care plan for widows
  • Chromotherapy
  • Dance/movement therapy
  • Hug therapy
  • Laugh therapy
  • Forest therapy
  • Sensorial therapy
  • Coping with the holidays
  • Insomnia after loss
  • Self care tips for work

For supporters

  • How you can help
  • What to say & do to help
  • Self care tips for supporters
  • Holiday tips for supporters

For professionals

  • Caring plan for professionals
  • Compassion fatigue
  • Suicide protocol
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Grief topics

Click on any link below to open and read that topic.


  • Reconciliation on grief
  • Spiritual journaling
  • You & I
  • Common feelings
  • Please listen
  • Empowerment
  • Please see me through my tears
  • Companion
  • The photo album of my mind
  • Life quality inventory check
  • Controlling stress with your calm scene
  • Hidden anger
  • Anger quotes
  • How to safely process anger
  • Guilt
  • Regret & guilt
  • What I need
  • Griefwork & boundaries
  • Reconciliation
  • Grief & medication
  • Give joy
  • Turning pain into purpose
  • From despair to hope
  • As we close
  • What now?
  • the holidays
  • God’s script

Dr. Bob Baugher

Renowned grief educator Dr. Bob Baugher has taught psychology and death education courses for more than 40 years. The author of seven books, he has served as the national advisor to The Compassionate Friends organization for more than 30 years, given more than 800 workshops, and trained over 1,000 people in suicide intervention.


  • Dealing with triggers
  • Proxy grief
  • Double grief
  • 6 tricks your brain plays on you during grief
  • Coping with the holidays
  • Death of my father
  • Guilt is what our brain does
  • Making memories
  • Grieving people scare me
  • Grief’s strange thoughts
  • Your secret grief
  • Getting hope back
  • Why others rationalize our grief
  • That one person who doesn’t deny our grief
  • Telling your parents what to do
  • Somethings wrong with my child
  • Sibling survivor’s guilt
  • What if I grieved perfectly?
  • Can we talk about my child?
  • Empathy & Brain Pain Relief
  • Coping with hatred
  • 15 things not to say to a bereaved man
  • How long should grief last?
  • Do men really cry less than women?
  • Teachable moments for children
  • Dip into denial
  • Do parents really have higher death rates following the death of their child?
  • Aren’t you just over it?
  • My friend just sat there and listened
  • Men in pain
  • Your brain is doing the best it can
  • How to make a person grieve forever
  • Grief makes a promise
  • Umbutu
  • Should I keep my changing grief a secret?
  • A pill for your grief
  • Stuffing stuffed animals
  • Prejudice and discrimination in grief PART 1
  • Prejudice and discrimination in grief PART 2
  • Dream facts
  • We watch
  • When others minimize our grief
  • Whey they think they know what’s good for you
  • The cruel trick of grief
  • How to ask for a story of your loved one
  • Understanding nightmares
  • Ending it; sometimes you want to, but don’t
  • Does grief ever really go away
  • What does it mean to deal with it?
  • To all the siblings
  • My first death
  • When Tom left, I cried

Dave Roberts, L.M.S.W.

David J. Roberts is a bereaved father and psychology professor at Utica College in New York. A featured speaker and grief educator, Roberts also writes grief education articles for national publications.


  • Wallowing through the muck
  • Lessons in gratitude
  • Reflections about a woman named J
  • How memories promote transformation after loss
  • 8 Suggestions for therapists working with bereaved parents
  • When I become a photograph

Coloring isn’t just for kids. Studies show that coloring is therapeutic for all ages and can help generate the same benefits in the brain as meditation. Click on any illustration below to print and color.

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Click here for more YouTube videos that take you beyond the edge of your world and into the hearts of others who share your loss language, heartache, resilience, perseverance, and hope.

Pastor Todd Burpo of Heaven is for Real shares his story in a keynote at the National Grief & Hope Convention on Thursday, April 16, 2015. Visit Pastor Burpo’s website at www.heavenlive.org.

Martin Luther King’s daughter, Dr. Bernice King, opens up to Lynda Cheldelin Fell at the National Grief & Hope Convention on Saturday, April 18 in Indianapolis.

Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley, a mother/daughter team and international psychology experts on grief and loss, share personal experiences and show that despite profound loss, people can find hope and happiness again.

World resiliency expert, author and CNN commentator Dr. Ken Druck leads In the Round at the National Grief & Hope Convention on Friday, April 17, 2015.

Soaring Spirits International and Camp Widow founder Michele Neff Hernandez shares her story of finding hope after losing her husband in a cycling accident in 2005.

Chelsea Hanson offers a rich treasure of ideas for how to remember beloved people using joyful  ways to carry their love, spirit and memory in daily life in this unique how-to workshop.

Benjamin Scott Allen lost his entire family due to a blood transfusion tainted with HIV. He shares his story in a keynote speech at the National Grief & Hope Convention 2015 on Friday, April 17, 2015.

Grief Diaries featuring mother Melanie Kors sharing her journey in the aftermath of losing her youngest son to a freak accident in his bedroom. Hosted by Lynda Cheldelin Fell.

Addressing the opioid crisis, bereaved mother Shannie Jenkins talks about her 31-year-old son’s 10-year journey through addiction that ended his life when he died from a heroin overdose in 2017.

The FBI reports that romance fraud is now one of the top 3 internet crimes. Dianne West, national volunteer coordinator of Soaring Spirits International, shares her own story of being scammed by a romantic interest—and how widows can protect themselves from cons.

Nicole Brown Simpson’s youngest sister shares her story of a downward spiral and subsequent healing in the aftermath of her sister’s murder.

How to hold the sacred space for someone you love who lost someone they love, Lynda Cheldelin Fell shares what to say and do, and caregiving pitfalls to avoid.

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featuring hope, healing, and life after loss.


Click the cover above to print and complete your own custom preplanning guide for your family.

Preplanning . . . the most important thing you can do for your family.

Completing a Planning Guide can help support your loved ones at a time when they need it most. Knowing and following your wishes can alleviate the decision-making stress, and allow your survivors to focus on their emotional needs and on other family matters that may arise during difficult times.

Have the Talk of a Lifetime, a program created by The Funeral and Memorial Information Council, was designed to help families have meaningful conversations about the things that matter most in their lives. These discussions can give important insights to the people they left behind — insights that can be used to honor and remember the lives of their loved ones.


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